Comments on: Over-Achiever

By: {lacey}

{lacey} — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:31:16 +0000

Thank you for your suggestions, everyone! (And Amy – since you’re the only one that commented who actually knew me as a chubby kid – thank you for thinking I was darling!) I realize that helping Grace (and all our kids) form a correct self-image is going to be a process, and one that involves all areas of her life. I think this is one of those times I’m worried about passing along my faults, and I want to nip it in the bud. So, thank you! I think all of your suggestions are worthwhile!

By: Amy stierwalt

Amy stierwalt — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 05:44:15 +0000

Hi Lacey,

First, you were a darling little girl just the way you were! You may try for Grace he Gigi, God’s Little Princess books. We don’t have them yet, but I know they teach little girls who they really belong to in this world! They are by Sheila Walsh. Enjoy!

By: Laura Webber

Laura Webber — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:30:51 +0000

I find that praising godly behavior, like speaking gently with siblings, choosing to be patient when she’d rather not, and self directed discipline (like making her bed without being asked or looking for ways that she can help another family member) leads to building a heart for God!

I definitely think that Grace’s AWANA accomplishment needs to be celebrated, but I believe that true character development (lasting impacts) are in the small moments of life, where affirmation of what is pleasing to God is celebrated!

By: Topher

Topher — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:13:40 +0000

Good communication about it is awesome. Tell her your story, and how God helped you deal with it. There are things my wife and I wish we’d avoided or done differently when we were young, so we tell our girls about it. They understand surprisingly quickly. It seems to be easier to deal with those kinds of things in the beginning, nipping things in the bud as it were.

By: Erin Morgan

Erin Morgan — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 06:51:04 +0000

Congrats, Gracie!! What a smart little girl!! I will take a stab at your question and offer a suggestion… Perhaps you can try it out on Grace, and let me know how it works — as I know I’ll be teaching Penelope the same thing in a few years Going back to your story… How did you learn what your position was in Christ? You learned because you were put in a situation where you weren’t the best at everything. You were able to learn from others and appreciate not being on top all the time. I wonder if this sort of environment would be helpful for her too. Perhaps getting her involved in a sports team, or a dance class or something else that isn’t school related. A new setting where she can appreciate others being on top and learning that she doesn’t HAVE to be first at , everything. It is a difficult lesson to learn at any age and I’m sure something that will be difficult to teach… perhaps reality will just have to teach and you can facilitate the discussion.